My marriage is going down the tubes.

[Hank70SS]

Sorry to hear this Gary. Guess you need to ask yourself, is your marriage and wife worth fighting for? No offense to women but based on first hand experience they tend to handle stressful situations differently than men. When they're angry and upset they want to punish somebody for it. Doesn't matter who or if they have anything to do with it, somebody needs to be punished. It doesn't make a lot of sense but it happens and often it's the person closest to them because they're available.

I mentioned before we took care of Lynda's parents for over 10 years. 10 years of watching her mom slowly die, in and out of the hospital so many times I lost count. I took some abuse for it but Lynda realized I was the only one that was going to help her through it. All these years later she is willing to help with my mom any way she can because she knows I was always there for her and her parents.

Try to sit down, calmly, and talk to Maureen. Make her aware of what she's doing to you and your marriage. Let her know that it can't continue or the marriage won't survive.